Emotions: Three Key Insights for Managing Your Emotions
This article is for those who choose to stand up and move forward, reaching a new level of self-awareness. Let’s talk about what often becomes a serious barrier to progress in our spiritual practices: our emotions and our reactions to events.
After practices, activations, and meditations, the first thing we usually experience is a state of inner joy, peace, and balance. But what comes next? Disappointment, as any situation can bring us back to our usual reactions and emotional responses. We “lose” the feeling of joy and strength, and the sense that we can control our lives slips away.
This is a common stumbling block on the path to mastery. We sit on this step and start to doubt ourselves. Our spiritual practices and aspirations become irregular. Why keep practicing if nothing changes? If I can’t be wise and calm, if I can’t show my inner mastery and love in everyday situations?
We strive to embody the image of a spiritually developed person—someone who responds gracefully to negativity, sees the truth beneath the surface, and shows wisdom and compassion instead of typical human reactions. But this image often remains just an ideal.
Worse, we start to separate our “spiritual” self from our “ordinary” self, growing dissatisfied with our reactions and emotions. We fight these parts of ourselves, repeatedly rejecting our “wrong” responses. During this inner struggle, nothing truly valuable happens; we remain stuck on the same step, caught in the illusion of spiritual progress.
This is something we all go through in the early stages of personal evolution and expanding consciousness. It’s necessary to uncover deep inner truths for the journey ahead—a new perspective on emotions and reactions, a new understanding of energy and space, and a new view of how we create our reality.
Some of us, not ready to move forward, stay where we feel comfortable. We pause, slow down, get disappointed, or continue battling our emotions and reactions.
Recently, I heard a great line in one of my son’s cartoons: “To fly faster than anyone, learn to fly faster than yourself.” This is one of those keys we receive in various messages, all pointing us inward—not outward, not to what’s happening elsewhere, but to what’s happening inside us. That’s where we make discoveries, receive revelations, and experience the main inner transformation and alchemy.
Today, I want to share three simple insights. By exploring and living these within yourself, you can consciously review and transform reactions like fear, judgment, and rejection—and, as a result, the emotions that arise: anger, irritation, contempt, shame.
What distinguishes a “master” from someone simply seeking a better life? The master transforms consciously, with an understanding of the processes necessary for greater awakening. It’s no longer a tangled mess to escape or destroy—it’s an essential part of our personal evolution, deserving understanding and respect. Then, self-development becomes not a struggle for a better life, but a wonderful journey toward our own Light!
Let’s return to the three simple insights you can discover within yourself and use as tools for evolution.
1. Managing Does Not Mean Suppressing
Often, managing emotions is associated with suppressing them. This is about the ideal self we try to show the world, hiding the inner storms triggered by interactions or events. It’s difficult, and intuitively, we seek release. The paradox is that we don’t accept our low-vibration emotions, yet we instinctively allow them to exist.
There’s plenty of evidence that suppression leads to energy distortions and manifests as physical illness. We sense that expressing is better than bottling up. However, if we constantly express these reactions, we want to remove them from our reality as something unworthy of our spiritual growth.
That’s true. The solution is transformation—changing the quality of our emotions and reactions. Moving from harshness to beauty, from sadness to joy, from anger to acceptance.
The first and most important insight: our energy must flow; it shouldn’t be blocked or suppressed. It’s just energy, and we can change its quality. It’s the same energy, but we can shift its vibration. Please pay attention to this.
Yes, there are real reasons why our reactions and emotions are negative. If we explore ourselves, we see the roots go back to childhood, to emotional wounds and deep fears. That’s where we go to heal, forgive, and improve our present. Processing the past is a serious task that takes time and effort. But the goal of this article is different: the ease of transformation.
So, focus on the flow of energy and the fact that it’s all the same energy. It can raise its vibration and change form. Negative or positive emotions are not separate energies—they’re the same energy, colored by our input. To manage emotions, you don’t need to eradicate one and replace it with another. See the fluidity and changeability of energy—it all depends on our choices.
2. We Can Choose!
We create our perception of ourselves and the world. We choose to enjoy what we like and reject what we don’t. For example, we may like our neighbor on the right but feel uncomfortable with the one on the left. We like our job but dislike the commute. We’re happy with our wardrobe but upset about our body shape.
It doesn’t really matter how these reactions formed or what caused them—they feel real to us. That’s why it seems impossible to change or control them.
- What will I do if this person…?
- How can I not yell if you…?
- How can I be happy if…?
We tie our reactions to external triggers, linking negativity to people, events, our bodies, etc.
The magic is that we can choose! And the choice happens inside.
Yes, we can choose our reaction every new day, understanding that reactions are subjective. We create strong event-reaction (emotion) pairings, but these are our own subjective combinations. Someone gets irritated when stared at, someone else feels embarrassed, another is curious, and someone else doesn’t care.
Reactions are neural connections, essentially equal in value. They’re simply our choice of how to respond to certain stimuli. If we look deeper, we find just energy.
When I explored this deeply, my emotions and reactions stopped being things that ruined my life.
I realized I could choose. I can choose how to react. What if, instead of irritation, I choose joy? Here come all those psychological techniques: if you dislike your commute, find positives in the journey, and your reactions will change. Instead of being annoyed by a long trip, you’ll enjoy listening to music or reading a book.
But I suggest going to the core, without extra techniques. This path is called: “I can choose!”
It’s interesting. It’s a game based on understanding how reactions form. We can let go of reactions that no longer serve us and simply choose. How do we want to respond to this shouting person right now? Smile or be afraid? Why use the neural pathways formed in childhood when we can create new ones right now?
We choose our emotion in the moment. We manage our energies. We choose the quality of our energies. It can be as easy as we allow it to be.
3. See the Illusion
This combines the first two points: being fluid and choosing what and when to express as energy. Let’s go deeper. Let’s look around and see only energy. See a tree as energy; a chair as energy; the human body as energy.
We see beautiful beings of Light in earthly biology, believing in the reality of the material world. We see divine entities with unlimited creative potential, “locked” in physical bodies on this planet.
We realize how illusory everything is, how all reality reflects our thoughts, choices, and energy.
When I look at people this deeply, I see magnificent beings believing in their bodies, creating themselves through the power of consciousness. This person believes in their unattractiveness, and I see the result of that belief and creation. This beautiful being believes in their anger and shows it to the world. This wonderful being believes in their strength and new opportunities, and I rejoice in their creation with them.
We believe, believe, believe… We believe in our appearance, our qualities, our anger, our weakness. We fight all this, but really, we’re fighting ourselves. We waste so much time and energy believing it’s all real.
We look for answers outside, when they’re inside us…
We manifest what we believe in. Nothing more.
The struggle always exists if we don’t accept ourselves as energy—capable of being fluid and transforming. It’s important to shift to a new way of self-improvement: love, acceptance, and gentle exploration. It turns out we can change easily if we go deep into these processes within ourselves!
Everything is different when we respect ourselves as energy and honor our journey on this planet full of wonders. And those wonders are us!
This isn’t just about our emotions and reactions. You already feel its depth if you’ve come to this realization on your own. All you need is to accept the information, feel it, live it, find resonance within, and move forward, exploring it for yourself.