How to Plant Hidden Commands in Your Conversation Partner’s Subconscious

Nothing happens “just because”—emotions, feelings, and attractions don’t arise out of nowhere. Whether you feel sad or happy, like or dislike something, all emotions pass through the subconscious. Most of what gets stored there goes unnoticed, which is why you might believe your feelings are purely accidental.

Now, imagine you’ve learned how to place the thoughts and feelings you want into someone else’s subconscious. This opens up huge possibilities—if you practice.

Hidden Commands: The Traps of Speech

In conversation, everyone unconsciously highlights the words that matter most to them—using intonation, pauses, or gestures. By doing this, we set accents in our speech, signaling listeners about what deserves special attention.

People’s conscious minds usually ignore these subtleties. But their subconscious picks up on everything. When it notices that certain words are reinforced with gestures or tone, it concludes those words are important.

Use this effect, and the results will exceed your expectations!

How It Works

Suppose you invite a woman to dinner and say, “You know what I like about this café? It has a fireplace. You can sit, watch it, and think about good things.”

You say the phrase “think about good things” with a different intonation. While she’s thinking about the fireplace, the embedded command “think about good things” directs her subconscious toward relaxation and comfort.

Another example: “Let’s stand here. I love watching fountains—the sound of water is so relaxing.”

Similarly, to create a friendly atmosphere in a group, start telling any story, emphasizing words like “pleasant,” “relaxed,” “happiness,” and so on. The story could be about your favorite cat, a new movie, or last weekend’s adventures. People pick up on the positive words and automatically apply them to themselves. As a result, the mood becomes more cheerful and easygoing.

Using Hidden Commands in Attraction

• “Have you ever been so head over heels in love with the first person you met?” (When saying “the first person you met,” change your intonation and subtly gesture toward yourself.)
• “I’m not saying that all women are crazy about me! Only a narcissist would think that.”

Rules for Hidden Influence

Remember, the most important thing about hidden commands is the two levels of perception. Don’t combine them in meaning, or your command will only affect the conscious mind.

For example, the phrase: “Let’s relax and have fun now” won’t have a strong effect. People will understand your suggestion, but it won’t reach their subconscious, and you’ll still see the same bored faces. But if you tell a story with hidden commands—“Last Friday, we really relaxed at the bar on N Street, and the fun was just beginning”—the group’s mood will gradually improve.

Clear Intonation

Change your intonation only on the phrase you want to highlight. All other words surrounding your hidden command should sound normal, or the effect will be diluted. You can even use small pauses before and after the hidden command.

Attention to Words

Be extremely careful with hidden commands. Avoid negative ones—they can not only create a bad mood in someone but also make them dislike you.

Practice with your friends—tell a couple of stories and see how your friend’s or coworker’s mood changes.

Just don’t expect miracles—if your friend’s wife just left him and took half the furniture, your story with the command “relaxation and joy” probably won’t make him wildly happy.